Pink Lace Pom Pom Dress

by The Classic Brunette, 4:00:00 AM
Pom Pom Dress: SheIn (c/o) (only $24!!) | Watch: Daniel Wellington (c/o get 15% off with my code SAMIMAST) | Wedges: Nordstrom Rack (old), similar (under $45!) | Monogram Necklace: Baublebar | Nail Color: Essie Fiji

Hello and happy Thursday! Apologies for all the craziness this week! This post was supposed to go up on Monday but life got the best of me so I decided to take a break until today, hopefully you all can understand! My senior thesis is due on the 1st and I am scrambling to make sure I get to the required 50 pages and have been working my butt off trying to finish it. Once I turn it in I will hopefully have smooth sailing until graduation!

In other news, I just got this pink lace pom pom dress in from SheIn and I am loving it! I've had my eye on it for a while as I've seen other bloggers wearing it and I just loved the pom pom and lace details! I think it's the perfect spring dress and I can't wait to wear it to class and possibly even graduation. I know I already have a dress, but maybe this can be for my post-grad lunch?? I'll make it work. The fit is super flattering and I was extremely excited to see that the material, particularly in the arm area is super flowy, perfect if you're like me and love some extra room!

I also cannot get over the price of this beauty! Only $24? Seriously, it's a dream come true with my budget. And for those who are skeptical about the quality, let me assure you I would NEVER promote anything on my blog that I don't absolutely love. The quality is just as good as something you would find in the mall. It's very on par with Forever 21 quality, which for me has never done me wrong. It also comes with a built in lining, another plus! Also, my puppy attempted to chew through the pom poms when I was playing with her after shooting these photos and there were no holes or tears if that tells you anything about how strong the material is! 

I'm actually so impressed with the quality for the price, and will definitely be hitting SheIn up for some more cute pieces for spring! I have my eye on this pom pom blouse and this off the shoulder ruffle dress.

What's on your spring wish list? Are you loving the pom pom trend as much as I am?

Free People Embroidered Spring Dress

by The Classic Brunette, 4:00:00 AM
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Free People Perfectly Victorian Mini Dress in black
Dress: Free People (c/o) | Booties: Forever 21 (old), similar | Monogram Necklace: Baublebar | Lip Color: YSL #52

Y'all I am living in this dress. I know I addressed that on Instagram the other day, but I just want to say it again because it's that true. I noticed this Free People dress last summer and I instantly knew it was going to be a winner. I think I'm going to pull out the big guns, people, and say that this dress is probably my favorite piece in my closet. *insert allll the jaw-drop emojis* But honestly, I think this is one of my favorite items I've ever owned. It's flattering, comfortable, and easy to throw on. Since it came in the mail I've probably worn it at least twice a week, and that's how you know I love something. If I'm willing to be a serious outfit repeater I have to be able to do it with something this cute, haha!

When I originally saw it I was worried it would be too short, as my legs are pretty long for my height. However it's the perfect length! Just short enough where it's flirty, but long enough that I'm not scared about flashing anyone on accident. I've been wearing it to class, to meetings with professors, to my internship, basically everywhere I've been the past few weeks! Another thing that I LOVE about this dress is the fact that it has a slip inside the dress so I don't have to worry about it being too sheer. For some reason extremely sheer clothing is a trend these days, but for people like me it's a nightmare. I'm not bold enough to wear sheer clothing, and I don't like getting that surprise when I put on a shirt and realize you can see through it. I will let the fashion adventurers take on that trend! 

I also think embroidery is going to get even trendier this season! I love the floral details stitched onto this dress, especially because the bright colors are a great contrast to the black. SO pretty! I've been seeing embroidered items everywhere lately from everything from classic white t-shirts to baseball caps to even denim jackets! I don't know about you, but I'm all for it!

What do you think about the embroidery trend? Also what do you think are going to be huge trends for spring and summer?

How To Deal With Negative Comments As A Blogger

by The Classic Brunette, 4:00:00 AM

There's something not too many people talk about in the blogging world that I really want to address: negative talk. Honestly, I don't know why it doesn't get brought up more often. It's an ugly side of blogging, but I think people should be aware that people aren't always so happy to see bloggers doing what they're passionate about. If you haven't experienced negativity, I hope that you are one of the lucky individuals who never has to! But I'm sure if you've been blogging for a while like I have, you're accustom to having a few negative comments thrown your way or have had someone say something disheartening to you. After a while, some negativity isn't a surprise and you can easily shrug it off like it's nothing. There will always be 'haters' who either don't understand, don't care for what we do, or think we're all just plain stupid. 

In the past I've had people who have told me that my blog was useless, a time-waster, not worth the work, you name it. And most of these things were said to my face by people I knew. I'm happy to say that most people aren't like this and are extremely supportive of what I do (yay!) however there always seems to be a few bad apples who want to drag me down. If it isn't bad enough people in real life try to tear me down, I've had people call me out on my actual blog commenting some not-so-nice things. 

I try to remember that sometimes people who are commenting don't mean to come off as rude, insensitive, or mean. I always try to give commenters the benefit of the doubt, if the message isn't outright nasty that is. Sometimes someone will want to start a dialogue with me, critiquing something I wrote or arguing the case for another answer to a problem. I am ALL about dialogue and learning from others, and in all honestly I'm not the end all be all for things. Everyone has their own interpretation of what is right, so who am I to call anyone out on their opinion versus my opinion. I love when I can engage in a conversation with a reader and understand different standpoints. So this is the first way I deal with negative comments, I actively try to engage with the commenter and have a discussion on our differences. Who knows, this person might have been trying to understand my opinion more and wanted to share theirs as well! 

Going off that, my first piece of advice is to, when possible, start a discussion with that person and try to understand their point of view. You can normally tell which types of people you will benefit from having a discussion with, as they most likely won't directly insult your work, who you are, or your opinion. These people will ask you questions and offer their own opinion.

I want to say that that's the only kind of negative attention I've gotten as a blogger, but it's not. Recently I was attacked on both my blog's Facebook page as well as my personal Facebook account targeting my blog and social channels. An acquaintance from high school commented on a few posts out of the blue (after no contact for 5+ years) and started attacked who I was as a person, my intelligence, and called me and my blog all sorts of nasty things. I won't go into any explicit detail, but it was jaw-dropping. I was in absolute shock and had no idea what to do. I thought to myself "All I am doing is writing some articles and posting pictures of some things that I love and someone is trying to tear me down for my hobby and part time profession." It was absolutely insane. I wanted to share the steps I took in dealing with that horrible ordeal in hopes that if you ever get a message that is even slightly awful you can overcome it as smoothly as possible.

Vent To A Friend/Family

I immediately texted screenshots of the comments to my mom and a few blogger friends of mine. The nastiness of the comment was just so hurtful, I wanted to turn to people I knew would build me up, not tear me down. My mom was extremely supportive and reminded me just how much work goes into this passion of mine, and that no one can tell me how to live my life and explore my passions. She also had some choice words to say about the person, but I'll leave those out of this post, haha. The blogger friends I shared with were also incredibly supportive and then shared their own experiences with comments like this. It was nice to know that I wasn't alone, and that there were other people who understood the amount of effort and love that goes in to creating a blog and everything that goes along with it. 

Option 1: Respond Kindly And Be The Better Person

If you choose to, you can respond to the person and address their comments. I chose to do this but then ultimately went with option two later on (see below). In responding, try to keep it short and sweet, literally. Be nice and do not fight back, it will only make things worse. Obviously stand up for yourself, but it will only escalate if insults and angry comments are exchanged. As my 'attacker' commented on my intelligence and what he found wrong with what I was doing on a public page, I chose to write a message similar to this: "I'm sorry if my posts are upsetting you, please feel free to unfriend me if it is an issue. I would appreciate if you have an issue with the content of my blog or posts to not post it publicly, as a courtesy to me. Next time please feel free to privately message me your concerns." I knew that responding directly to what was said would just add fuel to the fire, so I just wanted a resolution and to stay above the drama. 

Option 2: Delete

I am so glad that the delete button exists in this world. Don't want to deal with something hurtful and negative that you absolutely did not deserve? Delete, unfriend, report, block, and MOVE ON. After writing my response, realizing the person who wrote the comment unfriended me (I've learned that most of these people don't like to see the consequences/responses of their comments, go figure.) I thought I might as well get rid of it and move on. I don't need to sit around and wallow over these comments from someone who does not know me or what I do. Delete, report the comments if they are harmful (Facebook has an option for 'annoying' which is the closest option) and get that person out of your life. NO ONE deserves to be attacked for their passions and doing what they love. 

They (Most Likely) Don't Know You Or What You Do

How come it's always the people who have no idea who you are or what you're up to that are criticizing you. Don't let these people's comments sink in as you know yourself and what you're working towards, and they probably have no clue. The person who essentially called me an idiot had only spoken about one sentence to me, and yet felt they knew exactly who I was based on what he saw on my blog. Obviously my blog is a large part of who I am, but there is also a large part of myself that is not shown on here. Only the people I regularly interact with know my personality, my intelligence, my perseverance, my passion for blogging and writing, etc. There are things you may choose to share/not share on your blog/social media, and most likely the people who are saying bad things have no idea who you actually are. Also let me just re-direct these people to a post I wrote about how much work actually goes in to creating a blog post (which probably should be edited to include some more things since I now have more experience since the post was published.) You are the only one who truly knows you and your intentions, do not let the haters get you down!

I also want to talk briefly about blogger on blogger hate for a second. After discussing my situation with a few blogger friends, it seemed that other bloggers are largely tearing each other down. Whether they're attacking a certain system some bloggers use when working with companies (for example free posts vs paid posts) or just ultimately tearing another woman down for her appearance, it's extremely disheartening. Bloggers know the struggle of other bloggers, so we should be helping one another! It's hard enough getting others to believe and support our passion without tearing each other apart for every little thing that we do! So I'm just hear to point out that if you're another blogger who needs support, I am here to build you up and support you in your goals! 

If you've ever received negative feedback how have you handled it? Also if you ever get negative comments and want someone to vent to, don't hesitate to reach out to me! I'm always available through my email!

Grad Announcements And Gallery Wall Reveal

by The Classic Brunette, 4:00:00 AM
Happy Thursday everyone! My graduation announcements arrived in the mail and I am SO excited about how they turned out. I was worried that things weren't going to be centered or that the colors would be funky because I chose a bad photo (I opted out of having them double checked by a designer), but they look amazing. 

I chose this design that felt very 'me,' bright with lots of white and gold. I wanted my announcements to be simple as well, and I'm glad I found exactly what I was looking for! These designs are from Minted, and they had TONS of different designs to choose from!

I also recently set up my gallery wall, and had a few pieces from Minted as well. I figured I would share that on the blog today too. I wanted to have a lot of gold, bright colors, and things that inspired me. It's not all that expansive right now, however I hope to add more to it in the near future!

Hello Sign: Michaels, extremely similar | Large Gold Frame (similar) | Pink Painting by me | Small Gold Frames from the dollar store! | Paris Print | Gold Map of New Orleans 

I've been meaning to put up this gallery wall for about 2 years now, so I'm really excited to finally be moving forward with it! It also seems that everything kind of fell into place with it these past few months. I somehow found everything I needed to create the image I had in my head easily, after two years of being stubborn with it. The hello sign was on super clearance at Michaels, the large gold frame was in a random place in target and was both one of its kind and on clearance. And the two small gold frames were found at my local dollar store! Everything worked out perfectly!

Do you have a gallery wall? I would love to see it!

is post was not monetarily sponsored by Minted, however I did receive free product in exchange for posting my honest opinions!