Recruitment can be a terrifying experience if you have no idea what to expect. It's a stressful, long process that can tear you down if you aren't prepared for it. However hard it may seem though, it's supposed to be fun and enjoyable at the same time! Here are a few do's and don'ts to make things a little easier for you.
Don't pretend to be the person you think a particular sorority wants. It's easy to get caught up in what you believe a chapter is looking for, but it's also easy for the chapter to see that a girl isn't being honest about who she really is. By being yourself and trying to connect with each woman you talk to on a personal level, you can better understand which chapter best fits who you are. If you are disingenuous with who you are, you could end up in a sorority that doesn't fit and feeling like you don't belong.
Trust The System
When I went through recruitment last year I went in thinking I wanted one particular sorority, and no other one would do. Turns out, that sorority declined me after the first day. Did I get upset? Of course I did! But looking back it was such a stupid thing to be upset about when I fit so perfectly within my own chapter. You will hear the phrase "trust the system" multiple times during recruitment, and every time you will brush it off like it means nothing, but I promise you, things will turn out right in the end.
I got the worst blisters of my life during recruitment! I made the horrible decision to break in new flats only a few days before the first day of rush, and my toes and heels were red and painful for what seemed like forever. So I guess there's a do and a don't with this tip. Do bring bandaids in case of blisters (for yourself and for the other girls who don't bring them) and don't break your shoes in too close to recruitment!
Keep An Open Mind
You may think that joining greek life will be exactly like the movies depict it, and I can tell you that you're wrong. You should try to keep an open mind about everything you've heard about joining a sorority, however you should also understand that not everything you've heard is true.
Don't be afraid to ask some questions about the chapter and greek life in general! The women are there if you have any concerns or curiosities, so make sure to let them know if you have any. Here are some example questions you could ask to find out a little more about the chapter: What is your philanthropy and how does the chapter get involved? Why did you join this chapter? How have your sisters effected your life in and out of school?
Judge By Reputation
If you aren't a freshman, or even if you are, you most likely have heard some rumors about each chapter on your campus. As a sophomore with friends in some of the houses, I was definitely aware of the reputations some of the sororities had on campus. However, when I went into each chapter's room, I left those reputations at the door. Each chapter is different from the reputation that gets spread around campus, so don't go in thinking "oh these are the party girls" or "these girls only care about looks." It's impossible to judge a whole group of women from only knowing what other people say about them or from interacting with one or two girls.
Bring Up Delicate Topics
These include boys, politics, partying, money, drinking, etc. Use good judgment when speaking to people in the chapter! A good rule of thumb is to avoid anything that would make you uncomfortable if a stranger brought it up to you in conversation.
Talk About Other Chapters
Each chapter is interested in you, and it is a little disheartening when all someone talks about is their love for another sorority. It's great if you're a legacy somewhere else, but even if you know for sure where you want to be (although remember, keep an open mind!) girls are taking their time to speak with you. Give each group a chance, and you may surprise yourself. This also goes for speaking badly about other chapters. No one likes a gossip during recruitment, and it reflects poorly on you rather than the chapter you're speaking about.
Take Things Personally
You will probably be declined by a chapter you thought you were perfect for. It's a tough thing to go through when you could see how happy you would be in that chapter, but again, you have to trust that the system is on your side. Just because some chapters said they didn't want you is not any reflect on who you are, so it's best to just take the decisions as they come and know that they aren't personal attacks.
Forget To Eat
The first day is the longest since you visit all the houses, so make sure to eat well and bring a few snacks with you if you can. Also stay hydrated! No one wants you to pass out or feel light headed during recruitment, so keep yourself healthy and don't forget to eat with all the hustle and bustle going on!
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